There will, naturally, be some growing pains that come with the cohabitation situation.  Annoying personal habits, in particular, will have to be addressed now that you’ll be living together forever.  At one point in time, before you were married, these personal habits seemed as cute as a baby bear; now they seem as scary as an adult bear that wants to eat you.  And it’s often difficult to find the right moment to discuss these problems because one of you thinks, “I’m sure Ted will figure out that I hate it when he burps in bed” while the other one thinks, “How psyched is Liz that she’s married to the burping champion?” 

One solution might be to write down three things you’d like the other person to do to keep the household running smoothly.  Once you’re done, you swap lists.  That conversation will go something like this:

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